Dear Mother In-Law, Let Your Son's Wife Rule Her Home

You see, this is a topic most Nigerians probably find trivial. But  we as a people often forget that mother in-laws are every where. If we keep ignoring this issue, its next fall could be our doorstep.

But as usual, I will talk about anything, including this! 

So, I'm going to start from why some mothers find it difficult to allow their son's wife be in charge of her home?

Why is it so hard to let your son's wife handle the business in her home?

I find it funny to hear some mothers spew lines like " If I hadn't nurtured him, would you have married him?". Excuse me, like for real?

Because you have nurtured him, it has given you access to be so rude and overwhelming in your son's home? If you can't just have the back seat, why didn't you marry your son?

Like, are the ladies supposed to be scared because of a woman who thinks nurturing is a big deal that is so inclined to minding your business?

Just because you feel threatened by the presence of another woman in your son's life doesn't mean you should make his home a living hell.

I am not saying, you should ignore your son's home or family totally, but know when to step aside! For a fact, you should let your son's wife take some wholly decisions. It is not your call anymore, don't you get it? You had your own home. Let your son's wife have hers.

Don't call just to ask your son if his wife has fed him. It is none of your business.

Don't ask your son's wife if he gives her money?

Don't ask him for ridiculous "favour" like coming to help you buy foodstuffs in the market when you know he doesn't do so for his wife.

Don't call to tell your son things to take him farther away from his wife?

Let your son's  wife take care of her husband's finances

Let your son's wife take certain decisions ion her home.

Like, stay in your lane!

You shouldn't dictate when your son sleeps with his wife. Oh yeah, it gets this extreme in some families.

I planned to make this short, so I will just stick to the plan but the overview of this whole thing is that "Mother In-laws need to let their son's wives be"

Nobody cares whether you sold all your wrappers to send him to school, and no woman truly cares if he buys bugatti for you, but it is just ideal to show some iota of respect for your son's wife.

The truth is, if a man takes care of his wife and children, the wife don't really care how he spends his money. Women just turn FBI modes if they suspect a reckless spending style with no result, or a financial deficit that shouldn't be. This is when a woman puts her investigative mode.

I wish some mothers really know that.

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Dear Nigerian Madams, That "House Girl" Is A Child Too!

Recently, there have been lots of stories flying all over social media about acclaimed madams who mistreat their maids. I saw this while growing up. There was this particular madam living in a fine house not far away from our own face me, I face you.

She brought this girl about 7  from the village. I didn't know much at the time but I remember Chisom, her name. Chisom and I meet at the stream as early as 5am in the morning. I woke up that early to do house chores and prepare early for school. But Chisom, she fetched water to fill two big drums and bath her nieces, her aunt's two children and to prepare food for the family. A seven years old child. 

Not only did Chisom do all these, Chisom also hawked during the day when other children were in school. She hawked fruits. Few minutes before three O'clock, She returns to go pick the children in school, once they are all home, she prepares their food and wash their school uniform. Chisom is just 3 years older than the first of the two children.

Need I forget, Chisom was severly beaten for numerous crimes she committed or not. Chisom wore tattered clothes, at a time my mom gave her some of my used clothes. Her aunt came and fought my mom telling her to mind her business. Chisom was beaten particularly this time for "reporting" her aunt that she didn't buy her clothes...

Chisom was eventually sent back to her mom somehow. I didn't get the full gist then but I remember a woman, probably Chisom's mom who had a fight with the aunt and took Chisom away. Since then, I haven't seen Chisom.

But my point really is, why do Nigerian madams find it difficult to give enough care and attention to the child maid? Most times, these madams promise the family of these child-maids to send them to school and give them a better life that the village couldn't offer. They promise to care for the child. But as soon as they arrive Oshodi or Ojodu-berger, those promises vanish. And these madams become monstrous beasts in gowns and Mary Kay. They don't send these children to school, they don't buy them clothes, they don't feed them properly. Asking them not to eat meat, fish or egg is ridiculous. They don't even allow them communicate with their family privately because of the fear of them telling their family the truth. They isolate these child-maids when they go out. Somehow you will, you will realize the difference among the children of the madams and the maid just judging by the outlook.

And the men, the husbands of these madams overlook the child abuse and inhumane behaviours exhibited by their wives. They turn deaf ears and blind eyes to the wickedness perpetrated on these child-maids. Sometimes, these men sexually abuse these defenceless and powerless children. Even if the madam knows, she beats the child on top and claim she is "seducing" her husband. She claims the maid has an ogbanje spirit...

Haba Madam...

Fear God! Fear the future! Your children will grow up too. Are you not afraid?

That that child you "kill" with house chores might beat your children and abuse them in your absence

That that child you "dress" in rags might steal your things because you deprive them of little sweetness.

That that child you "refuse" meat, fish and egg will steal your child's meat in your absence or steal your money to buy things outside

That that child you beat even after your husband " to sexually abuse" her will oneday retaliate by abusing your child too?

That child is human too. That child needs care like your child. That child needs clothes like your child. That child needs love and attention.

Stop the cruelty Nigerian madams. Stop it please!

Have the fear of tomorrow when you may need help from anybody...

Even the "house girl/boy"!

The World Doesn't Want A SHE-ro! - Case Study; The Mandelas

Following the tragic event of the death of Winnie Mandela, as observed, people were concious of her inadequacies. Her flaws. Her imperfections. They quickly pointed out, the reasons why she went to jail, even though she denied the allegations until her death. They quickly pointed out the fourteen years old boy she murdered, the cases of adulteries, the whites she killed or that were killed following her instructions...

BUT they simply forgot, that she fought tooth and nail to liberate South Africa, she fought tirelessly to maintain the legacy of her husband. She went to prison for the cause. And the belief!

But the world didn't see these. They saw an adulterous woman, a woman who wasn't there for her husband maritally, a woman who didn't respect her vows, they saw all that.

FORGETTING that Nelson too was wayward maritally, he slept with many women. He had children out of wedlock. He divorced more than once. He had infidelity cases.

But, Nelson's flaws are not seen or are ignored because the world only wants to see and identify with a hero and not a Shero.

This played out even with Bill. Everyone justified his infidelity and saw it as normal for a man to cheat.

This played out with Donald who is currently married to his third wife.

The world won't see these men but is quick to see a woman who is fulfilling her sexual needs even when abandoned, as if it is the woman that is expected to not cross the moral yard stick. As if women aren't expected to have sexual urges with other men.

They won't say this, but do you know that Hillary's major votes came from the women. Majorly, men find it difficult to accept a female president. They find it hard to identify with a woman president and be tagged as "first gentleman".

If you think this is just fallacy, I will leave you to watch "Supergirl", a superhero movie and the female counterpart of super man. First, why wasn't the movie named "superwoman"? Why was the inferior adjective of a woman used instead?. To talk about the challenges of the protagonist  and the ideals of the movie itself is another thing.

Well, I leave you with this from KENNY BRANDMUSE

"If you have been following the way the global media have been portraying Winnie Mandela since yesterday, you would realize that no matter how successful a woman is, the world never looks past her flaws. Or the fact that a woman is supposed to be a man’s wife or an ex-wife! I did a quick scan of male heroes we love to celebrate, I found out that most of them had major flaws. Some even committed atrocities that spat on their good intentions.

No, we don’t talk about Nelson Mandela’s first marriage to Evelyn Ntoko Mase and how they divorced after 13 years due to his adultery and constant absences from the marriage. It’s ok for Nelson. It’s not ok for Winnie. It’s ok for Bill or the Donald to have flaws. It’s not ok for Hillary. A man hero is supposed to have a tragic flaw like the famous Trojan’s Achilles. And that’s ok, but a woman may not. Our most enduring imagery of a woman is the Virgin Mary. A rose petal, a freshly laundered white linen. A Nightingale.

Woeman. Winnie. What a World!"

Hello, Men Commit Suicide More. You Care To Know Why?

While the world is selfishly focusing on feminism, and empowering the girl child alone...

The prisons get congested with men- Because, nobody is mentoring the boys anymore. They are growing up without proper education and information needed to live a decent life.

But that's not for today, Do you know?

Though mental health issues are less taboo than they were in the past, and certainly more people are getting treated for them (at least pharmaceutically), the suicide rate is still high – especially for men. The World Health Organization estimates that about one million people take their own lives each year, and this is not counting those who attempt it but are not “successful.” In just about every country, men commit suicide more frequently than women, which is intriguing since women typically have higher (at least, reported) rates of mental health disorders like depression. A new study looked at the factors that might explain why certain groups of men are so much more likely than women to take their own lives. Why?

The society places much more expectations on men- With the current economic dispensation, men have had to "toughen" up and "man" up with their expectations. They indulge in more side hustles, they take sometimes unreasonable business risks, they indulge in illegitimate business more than the women. And most times, when the consequences of these things backfires, they gradually fall into depression and sometimes take their own lives.

The inflation rate in the market has added more pressure for family upkeep. One paint of garri used to be N200 naira now, it goes as high as N800 in the market. To cook a soup of N1,000 now demands proper planning and serious price-battering in the market. Even so, the soup finishes in the span of two days. Wives now demand for more money from the husbands. The husbands feel the financial pressure and they gradually fall into depression, hence to commit suicide isn't farfetched!

Respect for men is gradually dimishing- In the last few decades, more women and wives have seen the need to be amongst the working class. Many wives now see the need to support their husbands finacially, hence, they join their husbands in the labour market. However, as much as this development has helped to check the financial stabilities in many homes, it is also dragging along with it, the diminshing respect most wives have for their husbands. Many women now feel that, if they share the financial burden in the home, men too need to share the burden of house chores and babysitting. This theory most times don't sit too well with the men. Except for few who don't mind doing some home chores, most men vividly see home chores and babysitting as exclusively for the women. And if arguments as regard this contemporary sharing of responsibilities come up, the women are quick to blame the men for not being able to "provide" all that is needed at home. Hence, men start feeling low. The long reoccurence of this incessant argument on who pay which bill(s), and who should do which chore, often times lead to domestic violence. The women either die in the process, sustain injury and eventually leave the marriage or they approach the court. Either way, the men fall into depression and commit suicide or bag a jailterm and some simply walk away.

The increase in rape- Lately, the news of a female child being abused by an adult man now flies all over the place. This is an evidence that more men now indulge in sexually molesting young female child. And when some of these men are caught, they are either arrested and sent to jail or mobbed. Even so, the shame and stigma that arise from this shameful act perpetrated by the men often cause them to commit suicide.

But, is suicide the solution to all of these identified problems? The solution to these problems boils down to one thing. A stable and effective economic environment, flexible enough to reduce inflation rates, sane enough to allow the women respect the husbands more when they feel he is "manning" up financially, and a working legal system truthful enough to handle domestic violence properly and put perpetrators behind bars. Men too suffer rape, men too suffer domestic violence.

 

 

 

The Things Side Chics Do To Prove Their Fuckery

So, I have had a recent development on my facebook page. Lots of side chics proving their muscles.

Don't be surprised, nowadays a side chic can comfortably confront the wife and ask her why she is sleeping with her side cock. LOL.

I even read that men now watch their wives beaten up by side chics. SMH

The things side chic do for fuckery, they now have the bouyancy to rant about their achivements being a side chic and disclose how deeply they have entrapped the man to tell them the problems and faults of the wife. In other words, they become the secret keeper and the determinant of how a man treats his wife.

The things side chic do for fuckery, they are proud to tell and show the world how they saved the marriage of the the side cock. They now proudly say " I told him to go meet his wife"

S--H--O--C--K--E--R...

Hello B***ch, you will ALWAYS be a side chic. If he had wanted you, he wouldn't have gotten a separate sim for your communication only. He wouldn't have passworded his phones just to keep the darting eyes of his queen away. He would have proudly showed you off to his family instead of the wife.

You don't think so? Duh!

You think he will simply divorce his wife and go pay your dowry just because you give him 6-9 pose? Or because you suck his D while he is taking a shower. Oh yeah, he tells you his wife's weak points? Dear side chic, he is simply doing all this to own you and stop you from noticing your own husband. 

He wept when you told him you were done, have you heard of crocodile's tears? He would do those things he did for you to the girl next door.

Grow up! And leave another woman's husband alone! 

Stop allowing happenings that will make you write and unneccessary epistle about being used, dumped and irrelavant achievement in the journey of your fuckery with another woman's husband!

Be done!

Dear Feminists, Just Because Your Marriage Didn't Work Doesn't Mean Other Ladies Shouldn't Get Married

I am tired. I am tired of seeing "men" as only the problem in a relationship. It is okay to fight for girls against rape, assault, battery and the rest but please don't scare girls away from marriage. 

If your marriage didn't work, it doesn't mean other people's marriages won't work. Leave ladies who have decided to be a stay-at-home mom alone, leave ladies who have decided to have a joint account with their husband alone, leave ladies who have decided to kneel while serving their husband's food alone. Leave those who can't take a decision without their husband alone. Please, leave them alone.

Some ladies have decided to be "submissive", leave them alone. Don't go about on social media trying to paint men as the only problems in marriage. Stop campaign against decent respect in marriage. Stop using the fight against rape, assault, battery and domestic violence as a weapon for women to deny their husbands sex.

Men too are abused in marriage. Men too suffer in marriages. Men too are assaulted and raped in marriages. You don't hear this because you have structured your mind to believe that only women suffer these things.

These men keep silent because the society expects them to "man" up always. To be strong even when they are weak. To show fierce even when all they wanna do is lean on a shoulder.

And just because your marriage didn't work doesn't mean you should discourage other women from going into marriage. Leave women who have decided to be married alone.

Please!

My Husband Told Me He Would Come Pick Us After Two Years; It's Been 14 Years Now...

And she stood at the entrance of local government secretariat today, looking scared, tired and losing it. I was at the local government secretariat to pick up my PVC, when I met this woman with two kids. She greeted me with a fading voice and requested I helped her with "something" to feed herself and her children. 

I had dipped my hands in my pocket but something inside me told me to ask questions. And she blurted...

"Iya mi, Oko mi lo somi da bayi" meaning it is my husband who has turned me to this.

"Ah ah, Oko yin bawo, kiloshele? I probed

And then she told me the story of how her husband, the father of her three kids left her and the children for America, how he promised to  come back for them after two years and it's been fourteen years already.

This baffled me. But I didn't want to sound too judgemental, I wanted to know if he took on his responsibilities or if simply he didn't keep in  touch. And she told me that for five years after he travelled, he didn't call nor send any money. Infact, he got in touch the sixth year after he had left through his old friend, he sent about N50,000 naira at first, and he later started sending N10,000 which was not constant. I asked if she was working or trading, and that was when I knew her shop was first burgled in Oshodi before being destroyed because of the infrastrustural development by the Lagos state government in Oshodi. 

"I have nothing to fetch me money now" She lamented.

She has used up all her savings and her so-called husband has not sent any money this year. She told me if she calls that he would pick and promise to call back but won't and sometimes the wife he is married to over there picks his phone and shout at her...

My Naija people, is this fair at all? How can you leave your wife with three kids and not even look back? I understand that this goes with both gender but from my research, it is more common with the male gender. In the name of seeking greener pasture, a man will leave his wife with children promising them all the good things of life only to go there and not look back.

The eldest of her kids is 19, who just wrote jamb and I imagine, a family who can barely feed, how will she be able to raise school fees?

Dear Nigerian men, if you must go abroad, please make provisions for your immediate family. Set your wife up and ensure you check up on them regularly. Please, some of these women already know you'd get married over there for your papers, but please don't make it worse by "throwing them away". The emotional trauma of you seeing another woman is enough already. Take care of your wife and children. Believe it or not, your actions will always come back to haunt you.

You need to be there if not physically, be there emotionally. Call your family, your "oyinbo wife" can't be with you 24hours all day, for just few minutes she's away, pick your phone and say hello to the mother of your kids. Your future. Please think and make amends. 

Dear Nigerians, Stop Frustrating Your Relatives Abroad...

"Brother, I need a new phone, this time I want IPhone ooo"- she said authoritatively on the phone.

We were both in a keke napep, we had previously had a little chit-chat before a phone call came in and she answered her phone. From her conversation I sensed that she was recieving an international call.

Not until, she dropped the call and told me it was her uncle who called from America, I had thought she was being owed money or something.

But I pressed further, "why do you need a new phone", I asked

She smiled, "I am tired of using this one na aunty. I have an uncle abroad, I shouldn't be using this kind of phone".

I looked at the phone she was holding, a Techno WX3Pro. I asked again, "But nothing is wrong with this phone". I collected the phone for inspection and she winked and replied me, "Aunty, my uncle is living in America, my friends are using IPhone, I want one too.

"Okay", I said. What do you do? Do you work or you are still studying?

And she told me that she just wrote the last jamb.

My eyes opened, you just finished in secondary school?

"Yes, last year!"

Before I knew it, I had gotten to my bus-stop.

I had a reflection and I was pushed to write this post.

Dear Nigerians, don't dump all your life needs on your relatives abroad.

It is a typical syndrome and a common fact amongst Nigerian fellows whose relatives are abroad that they expect these people to build a luxury for them. I find this disdainful, especially amongst average Nigerian families whose struggling relative manage to travel abroad. Once one aunty or brother manages to escape this country to find greener pastures abroad, they just automatically assume that these people will take all the household and family responsibility. The mother will ask him for money to buy aso-ebi, the father will ask him for money to buy a family land that is in dispute, the sister will ask him to send a phone, the brother will ask him for school fees. Even the niece, cousins and nephews will always ask for one thing or the other without minding where these people will get money from. Not minding if they have been given work permit, not minding if they how dirty they get their hands dirty to make ends meet.

Dear Nigerians, your relatives abroad are sojourners and they don't have it easy over there.

Some of them work everyday in the cold to earn the money you always complain of not being enough

Some of them don't have work permit, therefore they do menial jobs like washing toilets, cleaning, caring for a messy old-one to survive

Some of them can't afford a residence yet, they squat to pass everyday

Some of them have more financial challenges than you can imagine.

Please, stop frustrating these people by making ridiculous demands.

Nobody owes you anything. Just because the person is abroad doesn't mean they have to carry your cross. Let these people breathe. Don't push them to do something illegal just to satisfy you. You can live your life without depending on your relatives abroad.

It is enough, let them come home with something worthwhile.

If they offer to give, that's fine!

But please, don't make them regret making the decision to find greener pastures abroad.

Sorry Bro, You Are Fired!(Part One)

This troubled me. A lot of them slay on social media but still get to beg their parents for subscription fee. A lot of them can’t even secure a job after going to higher institutions and the few who manage to get casual jobs like cleaner, receptionist, casual worker and others still get fired from their jobs. Why were they firing them?

As a curious observer, I learnt that a lot of millennials are working just to survive. Lots of them don’t have passion for their present jobs and they are barely doing the jobs to make ends meet. So, as the Yorubas will say, Oga ta  Oga O ta, Owo alaaru ape!

This simply means that lots of millennials don’t have the visions of the companies they work for at heart. They are simply “there”. And this annoys their employers. So, I strictly observed the following as the reasons why millennials often lose it at work!

1. Lack of vision

 Lack of vision is the biggest reason why millennial employees sometimes flare out. "A lack of empathy is hurting many millennials in the workplace, because they're not understanding the circumstances of their employment from the employer's point of view,"

Millennials sometimes struggle to appreciate the bigger picture and their role in it. This can hurt their workplace performance.

Being able to think like your boss -- to see the big picture -- is vital in the workplace. If you think of yourself as nothing more than a cog in a machine, you won't exactly be irreplaceable when it comes time for layoffs.

2. Miscommunication

One common complaint about millennials is that phones and computers preempted their need to learn face-to-face communication skills. They're great at Snapchat, Facebook, twitter and the likes, but they struggle to get their point across any other way. While I don't necessarily buy into this theory, it did come up as an observation. Lots of young people can’t hold simple, reasonable conversation especially interpersonal conversations

Communication is vital in any relationship, even in sophisticated workplace; the most important communication is still done face-to-face.

Meetings, calls, interviews and sales pitches all require sharp communication and interpersonal skills. If young employees consistently look helpless in these settings, a millennial is likely to be seen as bringing less value to the company.

3. Anxiety or depression

Let's get real for a minute. Depression and anxiety are serious issues that affect millennials more than any set of generation. This is evident in the way young people commit suicide. Although there isn’t proper statistics in Nigeria but as many as 50 percent of young people have experienced symptoms of depression, and it's not like those symptoms go away once they hit the labour market.

These imbalances can make it difficult just to get out of bed in the morning -- let alone flourish in a stressful or competitive work environment. A boss who is quick to jump to conclusions could easily assume an employee with depression was lazy or disinterested.

Unfortunately, many employers in Nigeria don’t offer support to workers with depression or anxiety. As workplaces adapt, hopefully this will become less of an issue, but for now it's safe to say that suffering from mental health disorders makes it difficult to hold down a job.

4. Lack of confidence

Most employers are  basically looking for four things in every job applicant. These things are "Confidence, drive, selflessness and character." Without confidence, the other three characteristics are difficult to develop.

Self-esteem is vital in the workplace. You need to feel comfortable speaking up in meetings, presenting ideas to your boss, addressing unfamiliar people and working under stressful conditions.

Young people, particularly those who had parents who provided everything for them, may be unused to accomplishing things on their own, and therefore suffer from poor self-esteem. Unfortunately, if you don't stand up for yourself in the workplace, nobody else will.

5. The need for independence

Millennials don't like to be shortlisted. We want our bosses to trust our judgment and get out of our nose. Sometimes this even extends to working with a team. Some young people simply prefer to work independently.

For employers, of course, unwillingness to accept a hands-on management style or work well with a team can be a deal-breaker.

I have found that forcing a millennial to do something my way, on my schedule, is often a losing proposition

But, if you give millennials both freedom and ultimate responsibility, you can find a sweet spot that works. It's a lot better than having to constantly hire and fire unhappy employees.

The Workaholic Irony Of Nigerian Millennials

Many Nigerian millennials usually claim they are busy. Then ask, busy doing what?

Doing NOTHING in reality! Is this shocking? No. Many have viewed being on Facebook as work. And what do they really do on facebook?

They...

Stalk people's page

Cyber-bully people

Share false information

Dupe people

Watch porn all the time

Comment 'ha-ha' on other people's reasonable posts

Read why a celebrity bought a goat as pet

AND after all these

These same millennials end up complaining of a failed government!

And I wonder, who really failed?

You who wastes 21 hours of your everyday 24 hours doing nothing in particular?

Or you who insults the unborn genrations of people old enough to be your grandfather but because of the invincible status of the internet protection, you hide under the shield of space and bully people?

You who insult people in government but have failed to study history and get your voter's card?

Or you who beg and dupe people to buy the next subscription and recycle your stupidity...

My point is, make use of the opportunity social media presents. 

If you at least don't make money, get knowledge off it and stop being a failure because you work hard at doing nothing!

Remember, You Only Live Once!

Boys Need Empowerment Too...

For the past few years, I have watched the Nigerian society fighting for the girl child and discouraging any form of injustice against the girl child. As much as I applaud this move and solidarity for  the girl child, I want to say that it has shifted beyond just fighting for justice. 

Everywhere on social media, you see the new movement called "feminists" blasting people if they don't associate with their beliefs and philosophies about the girl child. I am particular about rights to education, social welfarism and justice for the girl child, but I beg to say that WE HAVE TOTALLY FORGOTTEN THE BOY CHILD!

Look around you, every where you turn, you see empowerment for women and young girls, how about the boys? are they not human too? Don't they deserve to be empowered too? Are they not being abused on a daily basis by young female maids assigned to care for them? Are they not be abused by school teachers and aunts?

But the society turns a deaf ear to the cries of these yearning boys, because they are so concerned with the girl child.

Everyday, young boys keep getting stronger notions that 'yahoo yahoo' is the only way to get rich, yet we are bothered with feminism instead of FAIRminism.

Everyday, young boys in primary schools are being initiated into cultism and fraternities, yet we are bothered with girls getting empowerment only...

Everyday, young boys go into kidnapping, carrying guns, and we are bothered with only ladies getting attention.

These boys, if unattended to, will grow up to be the thieves that we rob the empowered girls of their properties, sexualities, pride and even lives.

These boys, will grow up to marry some of these empowered girls and turn them to punching bags

These boys, will become fathers who abuse their children physically and even sexually

These boys will become ritualists who might end up 'using' any of our relatives...

These boys need help too. They are vulnerable. They need listening ears.

Don't let us concentrate on the girls alone, everyone deserves empowerment, justice and sympathy!

Even boys too...

Meet Forbes 2018 Under30 CEOs

What never grows out? The burning desire of youth to reinvent the world. That ambition, confidence and impatience is on full display in our 2018 edition of the Forbes 30 Under 30, our annual encyclopedia of creative disruption featuring 600 young stars in 20 different industries.

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Meet the 30 Under 30 Class of 2018. From top left: Ryan Williams, Leah Sibener, Adam Vanunu, Amandla Stenberg

The 2018 FORBES 30 Under 30 -- 30 game changers in 20 industries, all under 30 years old -- is the most definitive gathering of today’s leading young change-makers and innovators in the U.S. Selecting these youthful visionaries is a year-round obsession. Now in our seventh year, with an alumni network closing in on 5,000 that spans the globe, this list continues to spotlight the impressive, the inspiring and the (genuinely) enviable.
It was originally inspired by the rising tide young entrepreneurs, mostly in the tech business, making big waves and earning even bigger bucks and world-wide followings. While their electrifying successes may be reflective of a booming economy, one thing is clear: never before has youth been such an advantage.

This year's pool of 600 is especially dynamic. That kinetic energy is what the 2018 edition is all about. They are stretching the elasticity of their categories (outlined below) and challenging the traditional pipelines to industry fame and fortune. Consider the young scientist-cofounders in the R&D side of pharma in the health care sector, Leah Sibener and Marvin Gee, who are working on hot-wiring the body's white blood cells to attack tumors. Or Austin Russell, the 22-year-old Stanford University dropout who is leapfrogging over autonomous vehicle technology in manufacturing. 
I can't wait to see the Nigerians on the list!

What Are Millennials Willing to Give Up for Their Careers?

Millennials often get a bad rap in the workplace, but the reality is many of these young people are extremely hard workers and willing to make sacrifices to get ahead in the workforce.
To find out exactly what these young people are willing to give up for their careers, financial intelligence company Comet surveyed 364 employed millennials who are single and don't have children and asked them whether, and to what extent, they would put their work before relationships.

For many millennials, it’s about the money. With a focus on their finances, 41 percent said they would end a relationship if it meant getting a major promotion at work. In fact, if offered a life-changing promotion, the average surveyed millennial said they would stay single for 11 years, delay marriage for seven years and wait to have kids for eight years. However, while many millennials might give up dating, when it comes to long-term relationships, it’s a different story. To the contrary, millennials are willing to make job sacrifices for a long-term relationship that has a promising future: Over half of respondents said they would give up a career opportunity in exchange for a long-term relationship and 86 percent said they would move to another city if their significant other was offered a better job.

While focusing on their careers is one of the reasons the surveyed millennials said they chose to stay single, some avoid relationships for entirely different purposes. The top reason is because they are “picky.” Others say it is because they haven’t found anyone or dated much, don’t go out enough or simply haven’t found someone they liked enough to date.

Overall, the study found that millennial men were more willing to make sacrifices for their careers than millennial women. According to the research, it would take men an average raise of $21,000 to choose to delay a relationship, while women said it would take a whopping $51,000 to make the same sacrifice. The same was true for delaying marriage and kids. On average, men said a $37,000 raise would influence them to delay marriage, while woman said it would take $93,000. Millennial women were also less likely than men to end a relationship if it meant getting a major promotion or pass on a long-term relationship if it jeopardized their career.

Source: Entrepreneur Network