You see, this is a topic most Nigerians probably find trivial. But we as a people often forget that mother in-laws are every where. If we keep ignoring this issue, its next fall could be our doorstep.
But as usual, I will talk about anything, including this!
So, I'm going to start from why some mothers find it difficult to allow their son's wife be in charge of her home?
Why is it so hard to let your son's wife handle the business in her home?
I find it funny to hear some mothers spew lines like " If I hadn't nurtured him, would you have married him?". Excuse me, like for real?
Because you have nurtured him, it has given you access to be so rude and overwhelming in your son's home? If you can't just have the back seat, why didn't you marry your son?
Like, are the ladies supposed to be scared because of a woman who thinks nurturing is a big deal that is so inclined to minding your business?
Just because you feel threatened by the presence of another woman in your son's life doesn't mean you should make his home a living hell.
I am not saying, you should ignore your son's home or family totally, but know when to step aside! For a fact, you should let your son's wife take some wholly decisions. It is not your call anymore, don't you get it? You had your own home. Let your son's wife have hers.
Don't call just to ask your son if his wife has fed him. It is none of your business.
Don't ask your son's wife if he gives her money?
Don't ask him for ridiculous "favour" like coming to help you buy foodstuffs in the market when you know he doesn't do so for his wife.
Don't call to tell your son things to take him farther away from his wife?
Let your son's wife take care of her husband's finances
Let your son's wife take certain decisions ion her home.
Like, stay in your lane!
You shouldn't dictate when your son sleeps with his wife. Oh yeah, it gets this extreme in some families.
I planned to make this short, so I will just stick to the plan but the overview of this whole thing is that "Mother In-laws need to let their son's wives be"
Nobody cares whether you sold all your wrappers to send him to school, and no woman truly cares if he buys bugatti for you, but it is just ideal to show some iota of respect for your son's wife.
The truth is, if a man takes care of his wife and children, the wife don't really care how he spends his money. Women just turn FBI modes if they suspect a reckless spending style with no result, or a financial deficit that shouldn't be. This is when a woman puts her investigative mode.
I wish some mothers really know that.
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