Everyone goes into marriage with both open and hidden
expectations and there’s absolutely nothing wrong in having expectations of
what the knot you are about to get tangled in would bring. Looking for a mate
might obviously not be as difficult as looking for a mate who meets our
expectations. You might find that special person who meets all of them, realistically
though, overtime people change and so do circumstances!
The good news is that some of the unexpected aspects of
marriage may come as a pleasant surprise while the bad news is ....well, some
aspects may be really unpleasant!! We will all have tribulations in every area
of life including marriage and sometimes those tribulations come from
unexpected circumstances.
THE REALISTIC OUTLOOK- No matter how loved up, compatible
you and your spouse may be, you should expect that:
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You will not always agree on everything
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You will not always have the same priorities
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You will not always enjoy the same things and
activities
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You will not always feel euphorically ‘in love’
Situations and circumstances above are very common and they
will not ruin your marriage unless you let them!
A SENSE OF COMMITMENT- If you and your spouse are
‘determined’ to work and stay together, come what may, you’ll be better able to
weather the storms of life! Commitment makes your marriage stable, only if you
don’t view it as burdensome. With a sense of commitment, when the unexpected
happens, you both will be looking for solutions and not the nearest exit. Think
of marriage rationally and realistically rather than idealistically.
THE BOTTOM LINE- To make a successful marriage, you must expect
and deal rationally with the unexpected!
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